My Father, My Self

Understanding Dad's Influence on Your Life

Masa Aiba Goetz

Do you have unfinished business with your father?

Do you have difficulty committing to relationships?

Do you constantly feel that you need to prove yourself?

You may not realize it but these and many other areas of your life are directly linked to the kind of relationship you had with your father. Whatever the quality of the relationship between you and your father, it forms and emotional foundation that pervades your entire life.

Why is this so? What makes the presence of fathers in our lives so important? Why do we still long for them years after we've lost contact? How does that affect our other relationships and our own families? Is there something we can do to repair the losses we may feel?

My Father, My Self examines these issues and shows how your father--even if he was not present--profoundly influences your self-image, career success, relationships, sexuality, and more. It also provides inspirational stories, practical guidelines and exercises to help you find answers and resolve issues related to these and other questions.

Upbeat and inspirational as well as practical and healing, you will discover how to deal constructively with your father's influence by incorporating the positive factors into your life and putting the negative behind you.

What Others Have Said About My Father, My Self

"This is a valuable guide for anyone with unfinished business with a father, whether alive or not. I especially liked the many examples of men who found a way to heal their wounds and become "Great Dads" themselves. This book will help anyone reconcile his or her relationship with their father and grow as a parent and person. Inspiring!"

Harold L. Bloomfield, MD Best-selling author of "Making Peace With Your Parents" and "Making Peace With Yourself"

"A necessary book to help heal childhood scars"

"After reading My Father, My Self I realized I was not the only one still having painful feelings about my father. After years of thinking it was my fault, the book helped me understand that my father had his own problems that made him reject us. Hopefully, I can incorporate the wisdom imparted from this book to get rid of the hurt from the past as I now recognize that any change is up to me."

A Reader

"...this is also a great book for young fathers, and fathers-to-be, giving them helpful hints on how to become a "Great Dad."

M. Shimada